3. How to Talk Dirty Before Sex

You may include swear or slang words in your phrases. Your lover might positively freak out if you suddenly use the f-word especially if you hardly ever use it. Conscious dirty talk is like a secret you have with your sweetheart. Like a secret code, a code only both of you know.

Examples for more hard-core phrases: “I want to lick your pussy” “Fuck me in my ass” “Spray your juice in my face” (in case your man is not a Tantric :-) )

Like: “You taste so good” “Your skin is so soft” “I feel hot” “I feel turned on” “Oh, that feels so good!”

Takeaway: It’s more important how you say it, than what you say. Don’t focus too much on the words you use, focus on how you say it and on your intention.

2. Listen to Your Partner

People are different. Sexual expressions are different. So are our desires. Some folks love dirty talk and it makes them crazily horny, others don’t like it at all. What’s important for you to know is that for the ones who enjoy it, the way they like it might vary. Some enjoy only the very soft-core vanilla like dirty talk. Some want it in their face, strong and hard. Others might get cooled off by the first f-word. So listen to your partner.

Ask dirty questions; maybe you feel like trying a roleplay that Seani Love shared in my Conscious BSDM podcast- pirate treasure hunt

Dirty talk during sex is not about hurting anyone, it’s a mental flirt, a turn on. So before you go hard-core make 100% sure your significant other is actually into it. It’s sex play, not disrespect. Take it gradually and step-by-step.

This is really a creative process. Like an artist who is just starting out. In the beginning. your colors might be very gentle and vague, and the more you work on it the more colorful and confident your painting gets.

If you know what makes your partner hot, you feel more confident doing it. So simply ask them. It’s figureoutable (thanks Marie Forleo for this awesome expression).

So let’s get started. You are on a date with your sweetheart and it’s your weekly date night. Are you really going to talk about work? Or about what Aunt Sally cooked you for lunch? If you are planning on some seductive sentences make sure it fits into your conversation. Don’t talk about yourself too much, or your future plans or serious stuff if you are about to throw out some naughty wordsmon sense!

How about you create a fantasy together, so while you are sitting in a restaurant, share something you would like to do to him or her. Maybe you are not wearing https://hookupdate.net/pl/hiszpanskie-serwisy-randkowe/ panties and you share your secret with him. Make it flirty, start with something softer and work your way up.

Like a female body, dirty talks needs enough warming up and teasing before she is ready and begging for more.

You can, for example, use names for your genitals that you like and turn you on. If you are at home giving him or her a massage, you can incorporate your dirty talk skills (Note: not in a Yoni Massage).

Takeaway: Gently warm up the conversation, tease each other, working your way up to make your mental flirting boil. So that you want each other so badly (mentally) that you are almost going crazy. If you are in a long-distance relationship, or you haven’t seen each other in a while, start the foreplay a day earlier via dirty talk. This is a great way to build each other’s sexual attraction and polarity.